I feel guilty asking him for help so I just assume he knows to do it and what to do. This is the same for postpartum and newborn needs. I expected him to just ‘know’ how to support me. I never gave him clear instruction on what I would need from him. I did not communicate super well beforehand with my husband. My lack of communicating expectations did play a role some in my labor. I felt bad for my nurse so I tried to do my own intermittent monitoring and definitely wouldn’t let anyone help me postpartum. I apologized a million times to my doctor when I texted and woke her up to come see me at 5am. I was worried about if her hands were hurting from counter-pressure or if she was hungry. I probably called her three times and told her nevermind before I got to the point where I admitted to myself that I needed her. I was afraid to call and wake her at 5am. I labored unmedicated with my second baby and had a doula, but throughout labor I often thought about how bad I felt for her. It takes a lot of humbling to welcome help. Although twos love helping others, they don’t receive it well in return. I tried to make my appointments short and sweet for their ease since I was low risk and had minimal needs anyway.īeing a two in labor was…funny? I was so afraid to burden and inconvenience anyone. …During my prenatal care, I would go for my visits and be thinking about how busy the doctors and nurses were and how tired and hungry they must be (also partially from being a nurse myself). Unhealthy twos take pride in helping others and get upset or offended if nothing is said or given in return. This can be a disaster and lead to bitterness. Because of that, expectations are not communicated well and assumptions are easily made. Twos are very intuitive so they assume other people are as well. My downfalls of being a 2 are both pride and expectations. I’m afraid to burden others, want to make everyone happy, need very gentle criticism, and truly find joy in helping people. I desire to help but struggle with finding my identity and worth in that. This means that I go way out of my way for people to the extent that I could sacrifice my own needs (sounds sweet, but there’s a downfall to this). At their Best: unselfish and altruistic, they have unconditional love for others.” They typically have problems with possessiveness and with acknowledging their own needs. They are well-meaning and driven to be close to others, but can slip into doing things for others in order to be needed. They are friendly, generous, and self-sacrificing, but can also be sentimental, flattering, and people-pleasing. “Twos are empathetic, sincere, and warm-hearted. I’d love to hear your thoughts in the comment section! At the end of the post, I’ve shared a few insights and “homework” for you. After that, I have some insight from women who are type twos and have given birth. So, let’s dive in! Below is a description of the Enneagram Type Two as defined by The Enneagram Institute. This is just one tool in your toolbox when preparing for birth but I hope it’s an eye-opening one! My goal with these blog posts is to create a resource for mommas who are planning a pregnancy or birth and find a lot of insight through the Enneagram.
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